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Ever feel like you're out of the loop when it comes to the unspoken rules
of kids party etiquette?
Experienced Moms and Dads know the do's and don'ts of both hosting and attending
Here are some pearls of wisdom from these parent experts to those just starting
out on the party circuit...
The rule of thumb passed down by experienced Moms and Dads is to invite the
same number of party guests as your child's age. Resist the temptation to
invite every child in your child's classroom. Be discrete and avoid hurt
feelings by mailing invitations home instead of passing them out in school.
A manageable party is a more enjoyable one both for the party attendants
and for you!
PARTY TIME AND DURATION
An hour is sufficient for toddlers and pre-schoolers when naptimes are still
an issue. Plan your party when the birthday child will be freshest and best
able to handle all the excitement, perhaps a morning brunch is best.
For older school age children, a two to three hour party at any time of day
is a safe bet; evening parties and sleep-overs are popular options for pre-teens.
Always include an RSVP date and phone number on your party invitations. In
the event of a guest failing to RSVP, a cordial call on or after your RSVP
date is perfectly acceptable. Sometimes mail is delayed and other mishaps
occur, and you need to be sure that the invitation was received. In addition,
knowing the exact guest count is necessary for planning purposes.
Children may sometimes express their true, and not necessarily polite, feelings
about a gift they have received. In advance of the party, explain to your
child that it's necessary to thank all the gift-givers with equal enthusiasm,
no matter what the gift. Impress upon your him or her that each guest feels
their gift is special, and that it's the thought behind it that counts.
If you plan to open gifts at the party, make it early before kids are tired,
cranky and hyped with sugar. Of course, this issue can be avoided entirely
by opening the gifts after guests have departed, a time-saving practice which
prevents the embarrassment of the party child making ungrateful comments.
There's nothing wrong with good old-fashioned competition; it gets the adrenalin
going and cranks up the excitement. Just make sure that the elements of each
game are manageable for the age group you are inviting. A trial run with
the party child prior to the party will likely head off any problems.
In addition, small gifts such as a lollipop or small trinkets given to every
player for completing the game is preferable to awarding one large prize
to the winner only. Planning a craft activity or end-of-party reading time
will involve all the guests, even the quieter ones.
SIBLINGS SHOWING UP UNINVITED
Be very clear on your party invitation by using the name of the guest invited.
Some people will ignore the obvious and do what's convenient for them anyway,
so have a few extra goodie bags on hand for siblings who just show up.
If you're having an outdoor party, it's good common sense to have a rainy
day alternative. Confirm your entertainer one week before party time, but
prepare a handful of games you can orchestrate on your own, if necessary.
If a guest or two are late for the festivities, don't delay your schedule
but keep on as planned. Although no-shows, delays, and inclement weather
are party bummers, you can still pull it off like professional with a little
PARTY CHILD MISBEHAVING
Here's where some advance coaching is in order. Emphasize the important role
your child has as the party host or hostess to make guests feel comfortable.
Discuss the responsibilities s/he will have such as greeting the guests,
showing them where to sit at the party table, and handing out party favors.
Stress that through helping others enjoy the day, your child will likely
have a better time too. A gentle reminder during the party should be all
that's needed once you've laid down the ground rules.
The party excitement, coupled with sugar intake, can lead to tantrums, tears,
and other misbehavior. Step back a moment and try to handle these problems
with patience and diplomacy. A little attention and redirection is sometimes
all that's needed to remedy the situation.
Give the child a special job to do or make them an honorary party helper.
If the behavior escalates, don't be afraid to separate the child to a quiet
room. Explain that bad behavior will not be tolerated and that the parents
will be called to take him or her home if it continues.
DUPLICATE GIFT DILEMMA
If there's a gift receipt attached from a thoughtful parent, you're golden.
Otherwise, don't get into it with another parent unless you can do so without
causing offense. You can try just returning the gift for store credit, if
you know where it was purchased. Or, stash it away with the name of the original
gift-giver taped to it. This way you can recycle the gift, making sure it
goes to an entirely new (and hopefully appreciative) child.
THANK YOU NOTES
Thank you notes are an excellent way to promote good manners and appreciation
in your children. Not only are they important social skill builders, they
foster good writing and creativity as well. Kids will learn to enjoy writing
thank you cards if you make it a fun project by using colorful note cards
and glittery gel pens or let them design their own on the computer.
For younger children, it's OK for the parent to write the note and have the
party child sign it. The party child could even draw a picture which Mom
or Dad can copy and send as a thank you. The "fill-in-the-blanks" type thank
you note are a great alternative too. Another super idea is to include a
picture of the guest taken with the party child along with the thank you
Incidentally, it's critical to keep a careful list of who-gave-what so thank
you notes can be sent without mix-ups.
CAN PARENTS STAY?
If you're unsure if you can accompany your child to a party, just be up front
with the parents beforehand and ask what their party plans are. The RSVP
call is a great time to ask questions. Most parents of younger children know
some kids are more comfortable with their parents around and plan accordingly.
(A pot of coffee and extra cake or munchies for the adults.) Most parents
will offer to help if they stay - an extra bonus for the host/hostess!
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